If you’re the type who surfs the internet for articles like this, you can assume that you’ve found love, not lust, in your mind. You always want love for yourself and for the people closest to you.
Of course, not everyone will make love a priority; not everyone will put love at the top of their list of priorities. Not everyone will consider love an integral part of finding happiness and feeling good about themselves.
But it’s probably safe to assume that anyone would balk at the idea of a happy ending of their own kind. Most people always want to chase the happy ending whenever they get the chance. Now that begs the question: When can we really be sure that the opportunity to pursue love in our lives is real? How do we know that we’re not falling into a trap that will ultimately destroy us emotionally?
You don’t want to hear the truth, but more often than not, we tend to turn a blind eye to the many red flags that exist in early relationships. You may fall in love with your partner and become so desperate for this love to work that you fail to see the fact that you’re in a relationship built on lust, not love. It can be very easy to confuse the two, because on the surface, they may seem similar.
Both can be intense, passionate, and comforting feelings at the same time. You may think you’re really digging deep, even though you haven’t even scratched the surface. Despite all these similarities, there are some very key differences between the two that you should be aware of.
According to leading experts in the field of love and relationships, love isn’t necessarily something you can’t manifest without doing anything. It’s something that requires a lot of real effort and conscious thought. Lust can’t be controlled. It’s something that may or may not happen. And here’s the big difference: love has many depths and layers, while lust doesn’t. But how does that help you determine whether your relationship is built on love or lust?
Here are some signs you can look out for:
1: Your partner is taking things too fast in the relationship.
This is the biggest sign that it’s all about lust in your relationship. You need to know that true love isn’t something that is created in a few seconds. Love is always something that must be built over time. Love is like a fine wine. It gets better with age. And you really need to give it time to grow and come into its own. Love can’t be instant.
2: Everyone Hugs You
You know you’re going through a lot when you’re physically hugging him. You feel like you’ve gotten sharper than your actual workout at the gym. You don’t want to exclude other aspects of your life. You just want to enrich your relationship; you don’t want to include them completely.
3: Your partner brings you back whenever you want to just talk.
There will be times in your relationship when you just want to talk to your partner. There will be moments when you ask for real advice; or when you crave a real connection with someone. And if your partner doesn’t make you feel available in those moments, you know it’s all about lust.
4: You really don’t know anything deep or intimate about him.
Aside from the fact that you know he’d love to be with you, you really don’t know much about him. He doesn’t really open up about the most intimate aspects of his life. He doesn’t really talk to you about the depths of your soul. He doesn’t have a deep, intimate conversation with you. It’s always just small talk or sensual talk.
5: Your partner always wants to be in control of the relationship.
You don’t get to have a voice in this relationship. You don’t really have to feel like you have a say in anything. This is a real sign that your partner just sees you as a type of thing. They don’t accept the person underneath your exterior.
6: You’re not really finding a solution to your fights.
If your partner walks away from your fights, it means that they’re not invested in your relationship on an emotional level. They don’t really care about overcoming the issues they may be having with each other.
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